By E. Brown
After hearing an interview with author, Mike Robbins, I agree — we need to focus more on the good stuff. Life is too short.
“You mispelled that one word” (forget the fact that the 14 others words were spelled correctly)
“You burned the biscuits” (this was the first time they had made biscuits)
“You always leave the toilet seat up” (when you’ve lived on your own for 10+ years, some habits are hard to break)
And, the list goes on. Sound familiar? It is easier to find fault than to find appreciation.
Another by-product of this is that most people do not know how to accept praise and appreciation. You have seen it before, or maybe experienced it first-hand.
Someone tells you, “You did a good job!” Since we are programmed to find fault and strive for perfection (because of our fear of failure) we often respond, “Thanks, but it could have been better.”
We would have done good to stop at, “Thanks.”
Have you ever noticed that about yourself or others? I sure did. Several years ago, I came to the realization that I had a hard time accepting praise. We often opt for the false humility angle.
Mike’s book, Focus On The Good Stuff, is a call to gratitude. “The average person processes over 50,000 thoughts a day and 80% of them are negative,” Mike says. Many people are driven and competitive because of fear — fear of failing or being perceived as a failure.
This book is filled with action items, ideas, and suggested practices. It is easy to take what you learn and apply it to your life right away. Here are three ideas Mike suggests you try today:
- Find a “trigger object” like a small stone or coin and keep it in your pocket or on your desk. Every time you touch it or see it, think of something you are grateful for
- Every day find 3 new things you can tell your spouse, child, or significant friend you appreciate about them
- Start an Appreciation Journal where you write what you like about yourself and what you are grateful for
You will be amazed at the impact this attitude can and will have on your life. Start focusing on the good stuff today.